Loneliness

Hello everyone!

Who among us has never felt alone? Who has never felt so left out? Or even around people felt the loneliness to be your only companion? What makes us feel, this feeling so bitter in our hearts? It was not us, who in many times and with our own thinking and attitudes do not put ourselves in this situation?

In many moments of our lives, we create an idealization, a plan, a story which we desire to follow the straight and so indisputable. This is because every human being needs a plan and a path so you can feel safe and know that there was "walking" towards life. But when it becomes harmful? When we begin to neglect our natural tendencies and needs of our hearts as it brings us, if not immediately but gradually, the loneliness.

These expectations are often unrealistic, often in search of a boot on the model of perfection and our social model idea of happiness. Of course ... who dreams of being unhappy? However when in harms way, this idealization is formed by thoughts often neurotic foundations, which would be: adopt standards existential super strict, sometimes impossible to achieve, and pride (great evil of mankind) powered by the feeling of omnipotence, superiority and invulnerability.

This idealization leads often spiritual states of sadness, emptiness, boredom. But where did they come from? There are many answers. Some people become obsessed with their accomplishments because they feel a form of weakness in other sectors of their lives.

In most cases (detrimental), is derived from low-esteem of the individual, usually in childhood, where the individual feels diminished, or come to think of this due to treatment of those around him, making him think that is not good enough or is not worth the feeling of warmth and love.

This factor causes a variety of situations for an individual and one of them is this idealization, where it creates standards that they consider appropriate "to be noticed and loved." Cruel ignorance!  Badly realizes he will become his own victim.

Because with time will gradually annihilate their existence on the false pretext of building a future (often achieve), but the heavy losses,  to see with an achievement, an entire "empire", but lonely. Oh then realizes how foolish it was and afraid to live, to have been hiding from the opportunities of which his heart was often willing to obtain.

And this "hiding" over time destroys the healthy social life , and happy because the companies are close for convenience and not by affinity, and often prevents the growth and spiritual development of the individual.

To kill the loneliness, we must get in touch with our essence. The resignation of  idealized self, causes the individual to enter into an atmosphere of freedom. Of course I do not mean to live life anyway, because all we have to make plans, however, in a healthy way and not obsessive and neurotic.

Although many times to realize over time that these behaviors are harmful, they prefer to keep them created by a defensive barrier, and the fear of returning to feel "diminished" or let themselves be "exposed" the feelings, and increasingly surround these barriers that will eventually choke them.

Love and respect for ourselves, create an atmosphere conducive to discover our true identity, bringing joy to live and allowing spiritual development.

Remember that loneliness comes when we deny our feelings and ignore our inner experiences. This behavior tends to make us see things the way we want to see, that is, as it is convenient, rather than seeing them as they really are. That is how we distort our reality.

Do not reject what we feel indeed. This does not mean indiscriminately live in freedom and without control, but recognize the place that corresponds to our feelings, not ignore them, nor let them be masters of our lives.

If we should stay or not next to someone it is a decision that should be taken with spontaneity, harmony and freedom, without fear or mixtures of taxes.

Let's stop here to have a time to reflect and assimilate this part. Until Friday ^ - ^